The following cards (#13-30) are additional spiritual principles and practices that can be essential in recovery.
Maple tree releasing a fall leaf
Forgiveness can feel like we’re letting someone off a hook on which they should hang for all eternity. The irony is that the person actually hooked is the one filled with angry bitterness. Resentment is our greatest obstacle to joy. We operate under the delusion that by holding on to our anger, it will make us feel better, punish the offender, or somehow change what happened. A clear and honest look at our resentments will show evidence to the contrary. The hesitancy to forgive might be caused by misunderstandings about the process itself. Forgiveness means we accept the reality of what has happened and find a way to live peacefully with it. It requires courage and clarity, and it may begin with outrage and grief to honor our loss. Forgiveness doesn’t mean we condone what was done, nor do we have to allow it to happen again. How do we begin to release the rawness of such emotion? It is helpful to stop replaying the incident over and over in our head; such repetition only stokes the fire of anger. Meditation can be a beneficial tool in this regard. It is also useful to remember that there is an injury behind every wrong or shortcoming. We can understand this view by looking at our own faults and the conditions that shaped our subsequent decisions and actions. Acknowledging our own flaws may soften our heart, as we recognize the imperfection of all humans. Perhaps the most important thing to realize is that only in forgiveness we will find relief and peace.
Without forgiveness our lives are chained, forced to carry the sufferings of the past and repeat them with no release.
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