Bending Toward the Light

Photo by Russell Neches

          Most plants use photosynthesis to produce sugar molecules for the food and building materials they need. Because it requires the sun’s light energy, plants generally display positive phototropism, or growth towards a light source. Growth hormones known as auxins move to the dark side of the plant and stimulate the cells there to elongate. The one-sided elongation causes the plant to bend toward the light. This adaptive process ensures that the plant receives the energy necessary for survival.

          To be willing means that we incline ourselves toward something, as plants bend toward sunlight. It implies more than optimistic, mental movement; willingness in recovery suggests a beginning effort made in a positive direction. The information we learn from books and the wisdom we receive from others can create strong roots to support us. We will be motivated to act by understanding the ‘why’ behind the action. Though new knowledge may be exciting, it is only the effort it activates that will help us make substantial progress. For example, we may be compelled to list those we’ve harmed (in order to make amends) after realizing this action can assist us in repairing our relationships and freeing us from guilt. Our understanding fuels our desire to act as we reach for recovery.

For more information on willingness, see this post.

Willingness

Fledgling robin preparing to take flight

          The one attribute recovery requires of everyone is willingness. Positive change must be embraced with as much open-mindedness as possible, followed by the determination to shoulder whatever responsibility such change might demand. We have shown this quality in the progress we’ve made so far. Complete self-sufficiency has been nudged aside, as we made room to accept the wisdom of others. We’ve taken an honest look at our lives and taken aim toward a more spiritual way of living. The next suggestion will require even more from us: the willingness to make amends to those we have harmed in any way. This practice involves making a list of those we’ve hurt, the wrongs done, and how we will try and rectify them. However, as we make our plans, we need to make sure what we say or disclose won’t cause any further damage (including to ourselves). It’s helpful to talk over our list with a mentor, as we are apt to leave off someone we still fear or resent. Here we can cultivate an open mind and heart, realizing what we’re about to do will not only give us a sense of freedom but will lay the foundation for healthy relationships in the future.

We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are. 

~ Max DePree

For more information on willingness, see this post.