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Showing posts with label tolerance. Show all posts
Showing posts with label tolerance. Show all posts

Monday, May 28, 2018

Adverse Reactions

Photo by Jon Sachs

          In humans, contact with poison ivy often tricks our immune system into thinking our own skin cells are foreign, a reaction that results in an itchy, blistering rash. However, the plant has no ill effects on most wild or domesticated animals. Because of their immunity, several businesses have sprung up that employ goats for clearing such unwanted vegetation. Goats will readily eat poison ivy, including the seeds; none of the seeds are viable after being ground and digested. Although they don't consume the roots, goats used over an extended period will starve the plant of the energy it needs to survive. The added benefit of this goat-based form of brush control is that it avoids the use of herbicides. 
          Tolerance suggests allowing people to pursue their own understanding of truth within the boundaries of the common good ('do no harm'). The medical definition can add a spiritual lens to look through, seeing tolerance as the ability to endure exposure without an adverse reaction. Even when we don't react outwardly, we often react inwardly. Simply gritting our teeth while dealing with people who annoy us can twist us up inside like a tightly wound spring. Rather than stew in frustration, we can drop our agenda and be curious. Imagine what it would be like inside the mind and body of this person. What fears might be motivating them? Instead of judging them harshly, could we make a more charitable assumption based on their past or present suffering? The poet Robert W. Service wrote, "Be master of your petty annoyances and conserve your energies for the big, worthwhile things. It isn't the mountain ahead that wears you out - it's the grain of sand in your shoe."

For more information on tolerance, see this post. 

Monday, November 27, 2017

Principles: Tolerance

The following cards (#13-30) are additional spiritual principles and practices that can be essential in recovery.
An oxpecker on an impala

          When the topic of tolerance comes up, cynics often complain that it is necessary to make judgments in life. Yet there is an important distinction between the kinds of judging we do. Judging a person based on whether we find them likable is simply a subjective opinion (which often defines us more than the other person). It is quite different from judging a situation that offers us impartial, useful information (for instance on safety or progress). While tolerance does include avoiding biased conclusions, it is more than simply putting up with difficult people. It involves approaching people who are different with an objective attitude while treating them with respect. Tolerance allows us to live peacefully and work cooperatively with each other. This principle gives us a chance to widen our knowledge and educate ourselves beyond our own personal experiences. We may not understand what it’s like to live in someone else’s skin, but we can make a start by being unafraid to look at reality from their perspective instead of just ours. In doing so, we might discover we have much more in common with them than we originally thought.


People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.
~ H. Jackson Brown, Jr.